First of all, the Debug.OXP in Oolite connects to the Debug Console, not the other way around. (You -do- have the Debug.OXP in your AddOns folder, right?)
Secondly, unless you're trying to connect from outside your LAN you won't need to touch the ports in your router (in fact, this could be a security issue for your LAN).
Nope, totally on my personal LAN.
On the machine on which you want to run the Debug Console (I think this is your laptop - 192.168.1.92):
1) Start the Debug Console.
On the machine on which you want to run Oolite:
1) Open a command window (Start->Run->cmd)
2) Double-check you can talk to your laptop at all: ping 192.168.1.92
3) Try to connect to the Debug Console: telnet 192.168.1.92 8563
If Step 2 fails you've most likely got a network problem or potentially a firewall problem.
I can ping it. Telnet just hangs though. I did have the firewall on the laptop earlier and I've disabled it.
These are good suggestions. I've noticed that when I connect to a shared folder on the laptop it asks me for a password. I just click <OK> because I don't have one for the folder and I get in. But I can't connect to the XP computer although I can see it on the network.
I'll keep trying different things. I do appreciate the brainstorming. I had not thought of the Telnet before.
Edit: Interesting thing. When it "hangs" I can go back to the Debug Console and type in /quit. As soon as I do, the Telnet sessions goes back to the prompt.